How old is too old to have a baby | Fertility after 35
Deciding to get pregnant after 35
One day you're doing everything you can to avoid getting pregnant, you've got birth control pills, condoms, the IUD, and then one day you hit thirty five and you decide to start having a family.
So you're doing everything you can to get pregnant. So you walk into your OB GYNs office and she says, you know what, you're one of my geriatric patients. That's right. You're too old. So you need to start thinking about fertility in a different way.
Does this sound familiar? Do you agree with it? Because I don't. How about you stick with me to find out the number one thing that I recommend you do now if you're trying to get pregnant, if you think 35 or older is a fantastic age to get pregnant.
Are you too old to have a baby?
So when it comes to age or being told that you're too old, I think there's a couple of things that we need to discuss. First and foremost: One is, have you ever heard that saying that age is just a number or I'm only as old as, you know, how healthy I am?
These things are absolutely true and can absolutely be true for you with your fertility, health and fertility age. So here are the key factors that I want you to consider as you are deciding to have a family or deciding to expand your family.
1. Family Planning
And as it relates to your age, first and foremost, it's family planning. Right. So how many children do you want and what's the timing of those in terms of spacing. That's going to help determine some of the decisions you make in the process of your fertility journey.
Do you have enough time to get to that specific number of children? So I have a couple that I'm working with. And they want 4 kids. But they're in their mid to late 30s, respectively. Each one of them, she's 35 and he's 37. So when you think about that and they want 4 children, the spacing there is with 10 to 12 months of pregnancy, depending on how you're counting and all of that, and then she wants to breastfeed afterwards. So you count a year for that.
That's a two year spacing in between each child. So they have to think about the spacing of all of that and their family planning. So that's what I mean about family planning.
2. Family history
How old was your mom or grandmother when they had children or their last children? Because that's going to potentially affect you or play a role in your planning, or at least it does for me when I work with my patients and then also family medical history, not just yours, but your mothers and grandmothers.
Do they have any history in their medical history that might influence some of the decisions we need to make for you?
3. Impacts on your health
How is your overall health? How is the health of your cells by just your overall health? I don't just mean like appearance wise, but inside, how is the health of your cells? These are some key basic factors that impact everybody's health, including your fertility and reproductive health. And so I talk about these often, but no one is: stress. Stress has a huge impact on your overall health and reproductive health sleep, which is one of the ones that gets forgotten all the time, exercise and diet.
These four are the three pillars of your foundational health, your cellular health and your reproductive health. And we need to make sure that those are all solid so that you can build everything else around that.
And then number four, which in my opinion right now is one of the more important things that we're going to talk about is your hormones. How are your hormones acting? Is everything normal? Is your menstrual cycle normal? If it's not, what is it telling you?
These have dramatic impacts on your reproductive health. And the determination is regarding if you're too old or not or if you believe that you're too old or not.
Cervical mucus can tell us so much about your hormones and if they're acting properly. I do have another video specifically on cervical mucus. You can check it out right here if you want to.
And then testing, testing is so important when it comes to hormones, your reproductive age, your overall cellular age and your health. So testing is essential. And one of the key factors here when it comes to testing is not to guess test, don't guess get real answers, get real information with regards to your hormones and all your other parameters with blood work. And this is the piece that I want to spend the most time with all of you right now.
OK, so most of us have had a very minimal amount of testing done or hormone testing done. And hormone testing is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to testing. Many of you haven't had a more extensive hormone testing done.
Often I review labs that are done on the wrong days of your cycle. So there's lots of misinformation and misunderstanding. And when you walk into your OBs office, they usually just test one or two parameters. And your fertility doctor is also usually going to just to only check one or two, maybe three parameters when they're looking at your hormones, because what they're all looking for is: are your hormones healthy enough for you to go through IVF?
For those of you who want to go through or do need to go through IVF, that's totally fine, but it doesn't give us an accurate picture as to what's going on inside your body.
Hopefully you all start by getting the right information for yourself so you can create a proper plan to improve your health, your fertility and your cellular age so that you can get pregnant no matter what age you are. I recommend you download our fertility guide to maximize your chances of getting pregnant fast: